A Myth or a Reality, Women’s Midlife Crisis
Some women find themselves facing a challenging time in their lives usually between the 40’s and 50’s, and we freak out!! Certainly for me happened exactly at 43, what I named my mid-age crisis. It is true we go through different crisis along our lives, but this time was different for me. Is that moment when you stop and start asking yourself deep probing questions. Sometimes it happens in a hidden way and we kind of ignore it and leave it on the side behind the scenes, and sometimes like it happened to me, something would trigger it, and your life suddenly turns upside down. It was during one of my coaching retreats where we were practicing a new coaching sequence technique within the Transformational Coaching method, where we transformed judgement into curiosity and self love, that I had my biggest break through. In other words I felt the need to give myself a strong evaluation about where I wanted to be in life versus where I actually was and suddenly I had a stronger desire to listen to my soul, and the outcome was so scary that made me wonder if I’ would ever regain my sense of self and purpose.
The risk of searching for this desire is that sometimes this makes you take rushed decisions and in consequence feel you are loosing your mind, that’s why is important to take a moment to reflect once again and analyze your pros and cons. The great news is that in theory you are half way in your life and a light came to you to offer you a second opportunity to turn the steer wheel around. At the end of the day is about reflection and acceptance, so don’t sit down in a corner and have pity for yourself, don’t wish things would be easier, instead make yourself stronger and repeat this mantra to yourself “ I’m worthy, I fully accept myself and love myself exactly as I am”, and go with what your gut is telling you, because 99% of the times is right. Nobody said life would get easier, but as you get stronger and more resilient and more positive and truthful to yourself and your purpose, you will find challenges getting smaller. One of my dear friends, Carla, posted something beautiful to wish us Happy New Year that touched my heart and I want to share it with you all, thank you Carla for touching our hearts, here we go:
“ I was thinking what else I could wish all women that are in my life, other than health and happiness …. I wish you peacefulness and restful sleeps. I wish you lots of coffee moments in good company. I wish you that if you need to go to the Pharmacy is to buy cosmetics and not medicines, and if you go to the supermarket is to buy chocolate and not diets. I wish you to be loved, appreciated and respected. That the men in your life take away the lipstick in your lips and not your mascara. I wish you so many things ….. that you will sing really loud when you are in the car alone, and that you have a year with beautiful holidays and getaways with priceless memories. I wish you won’t find yourself in need, and that nobody will take anything away from you. I wish you laughters that make you cry …. laughters that throws your fears away and erase all your wrinkles. I wish you all the very best!!!! “
So don’t wish for less that you deserve, every moment, feeling and experience is perfectly orchestrated for your evolution. Nothing happens to you, everything happens for you. And remember desire is not selfish, it’s wise. It’s a compass pointing you in the direction of your life purpose.
And with this and more to come I wish you you all a beautiful, prosperous and fulfilled to be 2019!!